I really don't understand what happened. It seemed like I had a pretty good idea of what usually is going on around me and was able to manage it pretty good, but I find myself more and more into these really confusing situations. I'm starting to think that I'm putting myself in these, that it is all of my own doing. We all like to think that we are pretty smart and usually make smart decisions but recently it seemed like I'm like King Midas except everything I touch turns to shit. I can't seem to convey or act in a manner that I feel really represents, well, me. I seem to have emotions that are reactive instead of smart. Everything kind of happens so fast and it all just spirals out of control. My strongest resolve just pretty much turns to dust in a manner of minutes and everything I've worked to accomplish just goes to shit.
I was thinking today about how everything always seems to work out in the end, and I was pondering the validity of that statement. Does everything really work out or is it just some motivational crap we tell ourselves to make all of the pain and suffering somehow worth it? Isn't life really a roller coaster where our good times are defined by our bad times? Or do things really work out for the best? I guess it goes back to my many theories about happiness and attaining it.
It's funny how it always seems to go back to that for me. I mean, I get it... We should stop focusing on what we don't have, we should just let go and enjoy what we do have. Yes, we all want to do that. I don't think I'm someone who doesn't want to be happy so I'm not. I really do think that I can achieve happiness, it just seems that whatever way I try to, it doesn't work. That also means that I'm not giving up on finding that happiness. Maybe I'm trying to be happier. I could do a whole laundry list of why I should be happy, but then I could do a whole laundry list of how I could be happier. Does this mean I don't appreciate what I have? Probably at times to some extent I don't appreciate, but then again if we get complacent with what we have, doesn't that deny us to possibility of gaining more? Or is it really jealousy, where we see that star, we want it now and we don't care how?
I'm realistic in the fact that I know that even if I had everything I wanted right now, it wouldn't be perfect. Would I be happier? Probably, but then again for how long? Does it matter? It's not like we can stay status quo. Even if we know in the future we won't be satisfied, we still do what we need to for the immediate fix. I wonder how many kids were born because of that train of thought.
I'm just fucking frustrated right now. I just want to be able to regain some kind of control in my life, but it seems that the more I try, the more I fuck up. I don't expect everything to happen overnight but it seems that every step I take forward, I do something to fuck it up and take two steps back.
Friday, September 12, 2008
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I've been here. I think its kind of a product of the age you're at and might last until well into your 30s. I was talking to my husband about it and we were both settled into marriages, had decent money. Did things like go on vacation and still felt like there was something vital missing in our lives. You're at that point where you're no longer young, not the way you can be when you're 22. Yet if you told a 30 something that you felt old and tired and bored they'd laugh, right?
It didn't fall into place for me until I was in my divorce and finally doing things for myself and working at figuring out what was important to me even if it went against what others thought was the "smart" way to go. My ex was there. I could see it plainly now that I look back. He had an affair. I took pills to feel better for awhile until I figured it out.
You're at a place in your life where you're working to find yourself, and find what makes you happy as the man you are instead of what you dreamed would work when you were younger. For me it took not working so hard at thinking about what makes me happy, but feeling happy period without trying to over-think it. What makes you excited to be alive? What makes you look forward to the future? Is it a specific life path? Or is it when life gives you a little monkey wrench just to let you know you're not always in charge. And let me tell you this, don't compromise your own happiness for what you think is safe. If something does go wrong, would you rather be happy leading up to it? Or would you have rather have felt you wasted your time on something not as good so that you could try to save yourself from future unhappiness? You can't lie to yourself forever, after all. So take the bad for what it is, a stepping stone. And enjoy the good as it comes, without looking for the catch, but listen closely to your inner voice and go with it.
You'll be fine :)
dude...we need to talk...
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